I frequently say to trainees; if you stay ready you won’t have to get ready. I stress to them that this is a lifestyle. That is just how it is, and while some will jump all in others are happy to dabble. After years of studying and applying this material I’ve realized that some will never quite get it, and that’s okay. However, for those that do this post is for you.
Whether it’s our strength and conditioning, skillset, equipment, or something as simple as hydration, if we stay ready we won’t have to get ready. How ready is ready? Only you can answer that question. Let’s look at a few examples.
For most this probably means abstaining from over indulging in intoxicating substances that would impair our ability to be ready. I don’t know how ready I’ll be to perform CPR or apply a dressing to a wound if I’m so intoxicated I can barely stand. Some might say well how often have you had to apply a dressing to a wound or perform CPR? To that I would respond, ever spent time around little kids? It’s not if, it’s when they will hurt themselves or choke on something. Be ready so you don’t have to get ready. If a friend calls and needs help with an emergency at home such as a tree limb crashing through the roof of his home, (true story), how ready will I be to assist him in his moment of need if I’ve spent the night downing alcoholic beverages? How ready will I be to help myself if it’s my home that was impaled by a tree? Fortunately I was ready, and could respond to help.
Let’s think about how we drive. When we’re behind the wheel are we really ready? How close are we to vehicles when we stop behind them at intersections? Is there enough room to maneuver should we need to get out of there? Or did we pin our own vehicle in because we weren’t ready? Do we drive with both hands on the wheel, heads up and scanning? Or do we drive with one finger on the wheel, talking to others, not really paying attention to what is going on around us? If we drive ready we won’t have to get ready. Human reaction time is what it is, and we aren’t immune. Being ready cuts down on some of that reaction time. It’s better to see the guy in the lane next to us that’s texting, driving, and drifting into our lane before he hits us. As opposed to having our response time involve observing the potential issue, get both hands on the wheel, sit up properly behind the wheel, and performing defensive driving tactics to avoid or minimize our collision with his vehicle. If we’re ready we don’t have to get ready.
I’m not saying you should never enjoy an adult beverage or that you should drive as if your driver’s ed instructor is sitting in the passenger seat. I am saying we should give due consideration to our daily activities and ask ourselves; am I ready for things to go wrong? If not, what do I need to do to correct this so I am ready?
I spend my days around positive people. I avoid negative people like the plague. Particularly haters. They contribute nothing and suck the life out of anyone and anything around them. Think about the last time you noticed a hater doing anything worthwhile. Never, and not ever.
Folks will try to understand the hate. Don’t. They hate you for three reasons.
They can’t be you
They can’t beat you
They can’t be with you
None of those reasons are logical. All of those are based in envy which is the worst of human emotions. So my advice is to simply refuse to engage. Who cares what their issues might be? They don’t deserve your time.
You know the saying; you don’t need that negativity in your life Well, you don’t. Focus 100% on achieving your goals and nothing else. Sure, as you achieve your objectives they will hate you more. Your success reminds them of their inadequacies. They’ll hide behind their keyboard and post away because that’s what betas do… but that’s their problem not yours.
In this blog we’ve discussed quite a few times discomfort, our ability to tolerate discomfort, and it’s role in our success in this endeavor. I can’t stress this enough; if we can’t mentally associate discomfort with growth we will never stick with this long enough to reap the rewards.
There is simply no way around this. I’ll be honest with y’all. (Even though I don’t want to because I’m a firm believer in my father’s rule: no limping. Meaning you never, ever, ever acknowledge pain. Ever. I don’t care if your leg is broken, you do not limp.) However, for the sake of this blog post I’m going to shoot straight with you folks. I hurt head to toe every damn day. I train 6-7 days a week and have for as long as I can remember. I roll, bang, lift weights, dry fire, and condition everyday. I’ve done that for years. While it’s safe to say I’m experiencing the normal muscle and joint pain of wrestling and boxing with large mammals on a daily basis, there is also the nagging injuries that never seem to completely go away or if they do they are immediately replaced with a new injury. It’s the game, and everyone I know in this game will tell you their experience is identical. As I tell my gym members I love jiujitsu but it doesn’t always love me back. The point of violating my personal directive in sharing this is to let you know, embrace the discomfort because it’s a sign that growth is occurring. You’re not the only one feeling the discomfort, and head to toe aches and pains. So don’t let it deter you. It’s a good thing. It means you’re growing, and adjusting. Right now this is abnormal but soon this will be your normal.
For the athletes that have been at this for a minute the discomfort takes a toll. We all experience that mental fatigue of just wanting to accept where we are as good enough and coast. Don’t do it. Fight that complacency. “Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.” – Dr Susan David.
It’s impossible for me to discuss mindset without talking about hellacious practice and training sessions. Times when we couldn’t carry ourselves off the mat or out of the ring after practice. Times when we collapsed trying to walk to our car after a conditioning session. Or those times when we slept in our car because the thought of walking up the steps to get into our house where we would have to walk up another flight of stairs to get to the shower was just a miserable thought.
We learn mindset by pushing ourselves to the breaking point physically. Pushing those edges is where we learn our mind is much more powerful than our body. The mind drives the body beyond perceived thresholds. Then we do it again, and push even farther.
Is it necessary to train and practice at that level every time? No.
Is it necessary to have trained and practiced at that level for a time? Yes.
Have a listen to Josh Hinger at the 8 minute mark in this video talk about the mindset of a champion, and the training intensity that this mindset brings to each session.
Claude Werner, the Tactical Professor, is someone I respect and look up to. His insights into violence, and violent encounters has shaped the way I approach training and preparation for the fight. I’m re-posting his blog post on the North Hollywood Shootout. Pay attention as Claude points out valuable lessons that apply to the private citizen.
In the midst of the hullabaloo recently, a major historical even has been largely overlooked. On February 28, 1997, a huge shootout took place in North Hollywood (Los Angeles) California. On one side were two heavily armed and armored bank robbers. On the other side were hundreds of Los Angeles Police Officers. The shootout lasted […]
It’s that time of year again. Please let your elderly family members know to keep their doors locked, and don’t allow anyone they don’t know into their yard and/or home. If someone they don’t know rings their doorbell they can speak to them through the door, there is no need to open the door. If they insist that they open the door, call 911. The police would love to make contact with the senior scam artist, particularly the physically aggressive senior scam artist. Because of the neighborhood I live in, (nice area, historical district, most of the residents are seniors though this is rapidly changing), we get these a few times a year. As William Aprill has said numerous times, just because you avoid stupid people, stupid places, and stupid things doesn’t mean they will avoid you. As a matter of fact they just might seek you out since you have things they wish to take, by force if necessary. (Refer to the three reasons people resort to violence.)
Yesterday I answered my door to find two guys offering to trim the trees that are touching the power lines in my backyard. I decided to let this play out to see how it would go.
I said there are no power lines in my backyard. “Maybe you aren’t aware of them? My associate can show you…”
This is a tried and true scam. powerline touching trees, shingles missing from the roof, or the offer to give you an estimate on spring cleaning yard work are all common scams. It allows them access to your home while the runner takes you on a road trip around your property, keeping you away from the home while they steal everything valuable. Usually they make a bee-line for the bedrooms as that is where most folks keep jewelry and extra cash. They are in and out fast because they are pros. This is their job.
A couple of things happened during this exchange that should set off alarms. He reached for the door handle to open the door. It was locked but he tried several times to open the door. Is this something normal people do? No. Normal people don’t attempt to open the door of a stranger’s home. This is someone who doesn’t recognize boundaries. I’m sure this is how he’s gained access to other homes while running this scam. He said, “I’ll wait here while my partner takes you back there to show you. Put your dogs away, and meet him by the gate…” No. I don’t need to go anywhere and your partner doesn’t need to go into my backyard. Also, they already knew there was a locked gate, and dogs. Another warning sign; they’ve already done their recon. Which leads me to believe this isn’t random, they’ve done enough recon to know the lay of the land. However, they didn’t do enough to know I was home as they seemed genuinely surprised when I answered the door. Which leads to another commonly used tactic. The criminals will ring the doorbell and if there is no answer they will kick in the back door to burglarize the residence. This will, or should, influence your decision to answer that doorbell. Answering it involves interacting with the unknown contact. However, not answering rolls the dice on them kicking the door of what they might think is an unoccupied residence. Be prepared for either.
They continued to push the angle of attempting to gain access to the backyard of my residence while also coercing me into opening the locked storm door through which I was engaging them. I decided I had learned all I needed to learn from this interaction. I let them know I knew what they were up to. Any further action on their part, (other than leaving my property immediately and never returning), would involve a vigorous response. They chose to move on. I have neighbors that are openly and publicly opposed to our right to self-defense. Those residences would be a much better target for the criminal offender. Hell, if the criminal offender tells them they are a convicted felon they will probably give them a hug and help them load their bags with the family valuables. For the rest of us, pass the word to your loved ones particularly the elderly as that’s the most frequently targeted demographic. It’s that time of year, again.
Training is a lifestyle that involves being uncomfortable most of the time. Exposure to material is an element of training. However, that is not training. We have to know the difference. We can’t let our ego fool us. Exposure to material isn’t the same as drilling deep into something so that it becomes you. If you are comfortable during a training session or cycle you are not trying. Growth comes from being uncomfortable. It’s called growing pains for a reason.
Training is consistent perfect repetitions over a long period of time. This can be brutal. Ten to fifteen reps is no problem. Add a few zeros to the back of those numbers and the pain train comes rolling in. Perfect repetitions require mental intensity. Fatigue sets in quickly, and it’s a different type of fatigue. This is where discipline shines. The ability to buckle down and stay the course for rep after rep. Perfect rep after perfect rep. Do that for ten years and we have a deep reservoir of skill and experience.
Training contains ruthless accountability. Accountability to ourselves, our training partners, our tribe. Always strive to excel. We can not allow ourselves to take the easy way out, or lie to ourselves regarding our performance. We can not allow our training partners to lie to themselves about their performance. There is also accountability to our history. There are those that have gone before us paving the way for us. We owe them our best. Kimura did 600 to 1,000 pushups and Randori for up to 9 hours daily. That doesn’t include everything else he was doing each day to prepare himself. I don’t know about you but I definitely have not come close to that level of effort today or any day in recent history.
Most importantly training has to be grounded in solid material. Recently proven tested material. Realistic material. Not fantasy. One of the biggest benefits to the Aliveness training methodology is there is little room for fantasy. Things that don’t work don’t last. No one enjoys failure, and in this arena fantasy fails. Failure equals pain. The bad kind of pain so don’t do it.
Check those boxes and you’ll be well-trained in whatever it is you do. You will be competent and life rewards competence. You won’t be comfortable. However, you will be competent and that is comforting.