During a recent discussion regarding the use of words to insult or denigrate folks that are different from us, the word hobbyist was used.
Of course there is a distinction between someone who is a professional, or at least approaches whatever they are doing in a professional manner versus someone who is lackadaisical.
I’m not sure if I qualify, (in the opinion of others), as a professional as I’m confused by the criteria used to measure professional versus non-professional. I will say this to describe myself; I’m an unapologetic enthusiast. I love everything about this endeavor, and I want to do it all. So today I did some movement drills with a Bowie knife, and then shot some .44 mag out of a Single Action Revolver. I don’t know if shooting 240 gr 44 mag ammo that’s traveling at eleventy-billion feet per second will in some way benefit my fighting skills. Nor do I know if working on some movement patterns I learned in a class on big blades will ever save my life from a violent criminal actor. I don’t know, and I don’t care. I’ve been employed as an armed professional for 2/3’s of my adult life. Not only has this been my professional life, it’s also been my personal life. I have trained on my own time, and dime because this has also been my hobby. I supposed the distinction between professional, and hobbyist for me has been when I’m on someone else’s time and dime to do it versus when I’m doing it on my time and dime.
Regardless of whether I’m a pro or a Joe, more than any other reason, I do it because it makes me happy. Because it’s fun. Because America. Because making everything about death, drudgery, and morbid masturbatory fetishization is a buzz kill.
Also, because America. Did I mention that already? Because it needs to be mentioned often. Because life. Liberty. Pursuit of Happiness. We need more people doing this stuff, not less. Encourage folks. Don’t belittle them. There very real threats to our rights at work 24/7/365, and anything, (even name calling), that divides us makes us easier to conquer. If that happens it won’t matter who is a pro and who is a hobbyist now will it?
This endeavor is infinite. Which can be frustrating since we can’t quantify infinity. How do we measure something when we don’t know the end point? There is no way of even knowing if we are at infinities half way point. We can only keep pressing onward.
Realizing this journey is infinite presents one of the problems with setting goals that are too rigid. As we evolve we get a better idea of what we can do. As we get a better idea of what we can do we might realize our goals aren’t ambitious enough. What we once thought was going to take years might only take months or even days. We learn more about ourselves, and our art as we grow, and as a result we learn we might be far more capable than we thought. We moved our goal post.
Set goals, and work towards them while knowing we will never reach the end. Also while knowing, goals in this game are just guides that change as we evolve.
Yes, there’s a sport attached. MMA, and Jiu-Jitsu competitions are a convenient testing environment where the worst that happens is we tap out or get injured if we fail. Where else are we supposed to test ourselves? Bar fights? Fights in the prison yard? C’mon man, give it a rest. You’re street. I dig it but there’s more to it than that.
Yes, there’s a self-defense aspect. Actually fighting, dealing with violent criminal offenders. Yes you need to know how to throw punches, kicks, elbows, knees, and headbutts. You also need to know how to shut those down. Jiu-Jitsu also includes defense against impact, and edges weapons as well as firearms, and for the most part it always has. I get it. Sport is more fun, it’s more creative, and an all around healthy endeavor. Plus, nobody likes to think about the negative side of this stuff which is dealing with a violent criminal assault. However, we have to think about it because that’s also Jiu-Jitsu.
Then there is the art aspect. The side of this endeavor that makes us a better human. Jiu-Jitsu can change people for the better. It can open minds, build relationships, and expand our understanding of the world around us. Sometimes, maybe most of the time we build this without our conscious effort as a result of doing the work. Jiu-Jitsu isn’t easy, nor should it be. It builds toughness the only way possible. By burning us into the ground then building us back up again. We do our part by consistently showing up, gut-checking ourselves, and doing the work. Jiu-Jitsu does it’s part by grinding away our ego which removes a host of problems that limit our ability to show our best selves to those around us.
We have to rise above the arguments of sport versus street within Jiu-Jitsu. Coach Chris Haueter has been preaching the truth of Jiu-Jitsu for a very long time; Think street, train sport, practice the art. We need every aspect to be a complete Jiu-Jitsu practitioner. Jiu-Jitsu is a complete martial art if we’ll let it be.
I frequently say to trainees; if you stay ready you won’t have to get ready. I stress to them that this is a lifestyle. That is just how it is, and while some will jump all in others are happy to dabble. After years of studying and applying this material I’ve realized that some will never quite get it, and that’s okay. However, for those that do this post is for you.
Whether it’s our strength and conditioning, skillset, equipment, or something as simple as hydration, if we stay ready we won’t have to get ready. How ready is ready? Only you can answer that question. Let’s look at a few examples.
For most this probably means abstaining from over indulging in intoxicating substances that would impair our ability to be ready. I don’t know how ready I’ll be to perform CPR or apply a dressing to a wound if I’m so intoxicated I can barely stand. Some might say well how often have you had to apply a dressing to a wound or perform CPR? To that I would respond, ever spent time around little kids? It’s not if, it’s when they will hurt themselves or choke on something. Be ready so you don’t have to get ready. If a friend calls and needs help with an emergency at home such as a tree limb crashing through the roof of his home, (true story), how ready will I be to assist him in his moment of need if I’ve spent the night downing alcoholic beverages? How ready will I be to help myself if it’s my home that was impaled by a tree? Fortunately I was ready, and could respond to help.
Let’s think about how we drive. When we’re behind the wheel are we really ready? How close are we to vehicles when we stop behind them at intersections? Is there enough room to maneuver should we need to get out of there? Or did we pin our own vehicle in because we weren’t ready? Do we drive with both hands on the wheel, heads up and scanning? Or do we drive with one finger on the wheel, talking to others, not really paying attention to what is going on around us? If we drive ready we won’t have to get ready. Human reaction time is what it is, and we aren’t immune. Being ready cuts down on some of that reaction time. It’s better to see the guy in the lane next to us that’s texting, driving, and drifting into our lane before he hits us. As opposed to having our response time involve observing the potential issue, get both hands on the wheel, sit up properly behind the wheel, and performing defensive driving tactics to avoid or minimize our collision with his vehicle. If we’re ready we don’t have to get ready.
I’m not saying you should never enjoy an adult beverage or that you should drive as if your driver’s ed instructor is sitting in the passenger seat. I am saying we should give due consideration to our daily activities and ask ourselves; am I ready for things to go wrong? If not, what do I need to do to correct this so I am ready?
A frequent topic of discussion is body composition transformation. A lot of folks want to change the way they look. This usually leads to a conversation about various exercise programs or dietary changes. Those things will work but it will feel like work. There a better way. Engage in an activity that requires the support of good nutrition and exercise.
I always recommend joining a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Kickboxing, Judo or MMA gym rather than a globo type gym. I have guys in my gym, SBG Illinois, that have lost 30-40 pounds in a few months without doing any weight loss specific activity. And? We’ve only been open since November…
Here’s the thing, Jiu-Jitsu isn’t exercise it’s an activity. However, it’s an activity that promotes a healthy approach to eating and exercise. Folks start drinking more water, eating more nutritious food, doing S&C work that is reasonable, as well as mobility work. Gals and guys start thinking about what they’re eating and drinking and how it affects their performance on the mat. We choose nutritious foods because we know we’re going to be rolling in a few hours. We want to have a great experience, and a poor performance due to poor food choices is a no-go. This is a much more sustainable form of motivation.
Exercise for the sake of weight loss quickly becomes drudgery. Exercise for the purpose of helping us do an activity we love at a higher level is soon viewed as a necessity. Body composition adjusts to reflect this effort. People start to feel and perform better. All without it ever feeling like work, because it’s not.
I spend my days around positive people. I avoid negative people like the plague. Particularly haters. They contribute nothing and suck the life out of anyone and anything around them. Think about the last time you noticed a hater doing anything worthwhile. Never, and not ever.
Folks will try to understand the hate. Don’t. They hate you for three reasons.
They can’t be you
They can’t beat you
They can’t be with you
None of those reasons are logical. All of those are based in envy which is the worst of human emotions. So my advice is to simply refuse to engage. Who cares what their issues might be? They don’t deserve your time.
You know the saying; you don’t need that negativity in your life Well, you don’t. Focus 100% on achieving your goals and nothing else. Sure, as you achieve your objectives they will hate you more. Your success reminds them of their inadequacies. They’ll hide behind their keyboard and post away because that’s what betas do… but that’s their problem not yours.
In this blog we’ve discussed quite a few times discomfort, our ability to tolerate discomfort, and it’s role in our success in this endeavor. I can’t stress this enough; if we can’t mentally associate discomfort with growth we will never stick with this long enough to reap the rewards.
There is simply no way around this. I’ll be honest with y’all. (Even though I don’t want to because I’m a firm believer in my father’s rule: no limping. Meaning you never, ever, ever acknowledge pain. Ever. I don’t care if your leg is broken, you do not limp.) However, for the sake of this blog post I’m going to shoot straight with you folks. I hurt head to toe every damn day. I train 6-7 days a week and have for as long as I can remember. I roll, bang, lift weights, dry fire, and condition everyday. I’ve done that for years. While it’s safe to say I’m experiencing the normal muscle and joint pain of wrestling and boxing with large mammals on a daily basis, there is also the nagging injuries that never seem to completely go away or if they do they are immediately replaced with a new injury. It’s the game, and everyone I know in this game will tell you their experience is identical. As I tell my gym members I love jiujitsu but it doesn’t always love me back. The point of violating my personal directive in sharing this is to let you know, embrace the discomfort because it’s a sign that growth is occurring. You’re not the only one feeling the discomfort, and head to toe aches and pains. So don’t let it deter you. It’s a good thing. It means you’re growing, and adjusting. Right now this is abnormal but soon this will be your normal.
For the athletes that have been at this for a minute the discomfort takes a toll. We all experience that mental fatigue of just wanting to accept where we are as good enough and coast. Don’t do it. Fight that complacency. “Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.” – Dr Susan David.